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What’s the difference between peace and comfort though? 

I leave you with a question this Ramadān. Do you seek comfort in this dunyā or do you seek peace of your heart?

Know that this dunyā was never made to find comfort in cause it’s nothing but a delusion, the ones that seek comfort in this temporary place lose both their dunyā & aakhirah.

What’s the difference between peace and comfort though?

Comfort is you sleeping in a king sized bed with a dozen pillows & silk bed sheets & comforters made of velvet & what not, but do you know what peace is? Peace is you giving your blanket to someone who’s more in need of it while you sleep without it in cold, sounds uncomfortable, eh? That may not be the easiest thing to endure but wallāhi the peace that brings to the qalb is , knowing you did it all for His sake.

Comfort is you eating all of the most scrumptious of meals by yourself, peace is you sharing even the last morsel with others.

Comfort is you wearing the most craziest of brands with all them adidas shoes & LV bags & what not, peace is you sharing your favourite accessory from your closet with that person walking around with ripped clothes & broken shoes.

Our prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayihi wasallam chose to live with peace of the qalb & left all luxuries that would’ve brought comfort of this dunyā with them. Ask yourself – who are YOU following? Them idiots that prefer the dunyā & the comfort in it? Or the sunnah of Muhammad sallallahu alayihi wasallam?

Why do we abstain from finding comfort here in the dunyā? Because it makes our heart get attached to it & attachments sometimes cost you a lot. Who would want to lose the aakhirah for some worldly comfort? Not us in shā Allāh.

We read the story of Mus’ab bin ‘umair (may Allāh be pleased with him). You know back in his jahiliyya, women used to line up just to have a glimpse of him, his dresses were specially imported from other places, his shoes so expensive, they say when he used to visit a place, the streets would have traces of his scent left behind even when he was long gone from there yaani his cologne was so branded too, but what did he do when he accepted haq? He kicked off all of these things, when he left the house of his parents, he only had a piece of clothe on his body that barely covered him! SubhanAllāh that’s our LEGACY! These are our role models!

We read about shaykh Osama (may Allāh have mercy upon him), he left his “outta this world” life I mean honestly he had a boss life but he left it & preferred to love in the mountains of Afghanistan, why? Had he lost his mind? SubhanAllāh! Laa! No! He recognised the haqq & accepted it with all its terms & conditions Alhamdulillāh. We read about shaykh ‘Abdullah ‘azzam, about Imām AAA, about our shuyookh behind the bars, the ones that got martyred (may Allāh have mercy upon them all) but do we learn anything from their lives?

We learn that we chase the aakhirah, our aims are the green birds & the chandeliers under the throne of our Rabb. We hate this temporary comfort, we yearn for the eternal peace in shā Allāh.

These are our role models. This is our legacy. We sacrifice this dunyā bi’ithnillāh. We are the ghurabā in shā Allāh.



When you see that girl with a messed up reputation at college putting on the hijab and praying in Ramadan – that isn’t ‘trying to act holy.’ That’s the essence of Iman.

When you see the guy give up the club, put down the bottle, and replace listening to rap tunes with the Book of Allāh in Ramadan – that isn’t fake…. That’s the pinnacle of faith.

When you see people taking the Qur’an off that dusty shelf and reciting it for the first time in the year – that isn’t being ‘typical’….  That’s true belief.

When you see a person sharing Islamic posts in the month despite their shortcomings – that’s not double standards…. That’s a sign that a light exists in the heart.

When you see that person without tajwid reciting without a beautiful voice – that’s not embarassing…. That’s a testification of the beauty that lives within in their souls.

When you see Mosques which are empty all year round fill up during the blessed month – that’s not hypocrisy….. That’s a sign that truth still exists within the community.

Perhaps this year a single action of that person you label as a ‘Ramadan Muslim’ will surpass all of the worship and good deeds that you spent a life time doing.

We all had a moment in life when things clicked and we were blessed with guidance.

*If Allāh can forgive prostitutes, mass murderers, and theives and give them Jannah due to sincerity then you think that girl without the jilbab, the brother without tajwid, those men without beards, those guys who didn’t pray, and the ‘Ramadan Muslims’ can’t be forgiven and given guidance due to sincerity?*


Fasting in Ramadan develops in a person the real spirit of social belonging

“Fasting in Ramadan develops in a person the real spirit of social belonging, of unity and brotherhood, and of equality before Allah. This spirit is the natural product of the fact that when people fast they feel that they are joining the whole Muslim society (which makes up more than one fifth of world’s population) in observing the same duty, in the same manner, at the same time, for the same motives, and for the same end.

No sociologist or historian can say that there has been at any period of history anything comparable to this powerful institution of Islam: Fasting in the month of Ramadan.

People have been crying throughout the ages for acceptable ‘belonging’, for unity, for brotherhood, for equality, but how echoless their voices have been, and how very little success they have met…” says Hammudah Abdalati, in Islam in Focus.

“What is fasting?” “How does the fasting of Muslims in Ramadan differ from the fasting of other faiths?” “Why should one ‘torture’ one’s body in the first place?” “What do you really gain from fasting in the end?”…These are a few questions that a number of non-Muslim friends and colleagues often ask us, usually out of fascination with this spiritually-uplifting practice of Islamic faith, and at times out of pity and sympathy for us, thinking, why should anyone suffer from hunger and thirst like Muslims? I wouldn’t be surprised if many of us shared the same negative perception of Fasting.

It is important to note that Fasting in Arabic is called, “Sawm”, which literally means ‘to be at rest’. Fasting in the month of Ramadan (the 9th month of the Islamic lunar calendar) is one of the Five Pillars upon which the “house” of Islam is built. During this month, every able-bodied Muslim, is required to fast, everyday from dawn until dusk

12 Reasons To Fast!

Develop Character

Fasting is an institution for the improvement of moral and spiritual character of human being. The purpose of the fast is to help develop self-restraint, self-purification, God-consciousness, compassion, the spirit of caring and sharing, the love of humanity and the love of God. Fasting is a universal custom and is advocated by all the religions of the world, with more restrictions in some than in others. The Islamic Fast, as opposed to mere starvation or self-denial, is an act of worship and obedience to God, thanksgiving, forgiveness, spiritual training, and self-examination.

Self Reflection

Ramadan gives us a break and provides us with a rare opportunity to think about our own selves, our future, and our families. It is a time to give our selves a mental break and to temporarily forget about the hundreds of worries and stresses we are constantly bombarded with. In hectic times, such as ours, and in places like the West, this valuable time to think about our lives, on individual basis, is a luxury and is desperately needed! It is a unique month of self-analysis, and of taking stock of one’s moral and spiritual ‘assets and liabilities’.

Develop Compassion

Fasting inculcates in us patience, unselfishness, and gratitude. When we fast we feel the pains of deprivation and hunger, and learn how to endure it patiently. The meaning of this powerful experience in a social and humanitarian context is that we are much quicker than anybody else in sympathizing with the oppressed and needy around the world, and responding to their needs. “It is the month to visit the poor, the sick, and the needy to share their sorrows.

It is the month where the food, sustenance and the earnings of a believing Muslim increases and they are blessed,” says the Final Prophet of God, Muhammad (peace be upon him), a man who was known for his noble humanitarian causes, for social justice, and for being the first to respond to other’s needs, despite the fact that he himself lived a very simple and humble life. It is only during such a trying time as Ramadan that we can reflect on the condition of those in this world who may not be as fortunate as us.

Develop Adaptability

Fasting in Ramadan enables us to master the art of mature adaptability and Time-Management. We can easily understand this point when we realize that fasting makes people change the entire course of their daily life. When they make the change, they naturally adapt themselves to a new system and schedule, and move along to satisfy the rules. This, in the long run, develops in them a wise sense of adaptability and self-created power to overcome the unpredictable hardships of life! A person who values constructive adaptability, time-management, and courage will appreciate the effects of Fasting in this respect as well.

Cultivates Love

It cultivates in us the principle of sincere Love, because when we observe Fasting, we do it out of deep love for God. And a person, who loves God, truly is a person who knows what love is and why everyone on this Earth should be loved and treated justly, for the sake of God.

Elevates the Spirit

Fasting elevates the human spirit and increases our awareness of God. It strengthens our will-power as we learn to rise above our lower desires. The institution of fasting is both unique and a shared experience in human history. From the very beginning of time, humans have struggled to master their physical and psychological selves: their bodies and their emotions.

Hunger is one the most powerful urges that we experience. Many, through over- or under-eating or consumption of unhealthy foods, abuse this urge. Thus, when a person purposefully denies something to their own self that it craves, they are elevating their mind above their body, and their reason and will above their carnal passions. “A fasting person empties his stomach of all the material things: to fill his soul with peace and blessings, to fill his heart with love and sympathy, to fill his spirit with piety and Faith, to fill his mind with wisdom and resolution,” says H. Abdalati in Islam in Focus. The person who can rule their desires and make them work, as they like, has attained true moral excellence.

Develops Clarity of Mind

With the clarity of mind and absence of distractions, also comes a greater focus. As students, the period of fasting, especially early during the day, serves as a tool to focus our minds on our academics. In the month of Ramadan, many Muslims try to avoid watching TV, listening to music, and some other leisure activities, which spares them more time and energy to be spent on more productive activities such as academics, intense study of Islam, voluntary prayers, social and humanitarian causes, and a quality time with the family, to name a few.

It is a reminder of our duty to God, our purpose and higher values in life, as God Himself describes the purpose of fasting as follows, “O you who Believe! Fasting has been prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, so that you may develop consciousness of God” (Quran 2:183).

Develops a Healthy Lifestyle

Fasting has numerous, scientifically proven, benefits for our physical health and mental well-being. The time, length and nature of the Islamic Fast all contribute to its overall positive effect. One of the medical benefits is a much-needed rest to the digestive system. The reduced food intake during the day allows the body to concentrate on getting rid of harmful dietary toxins accumulated as natural by-products of food digestion throughout the year.

The length of the Islamic Fast itself (around 12-14 hours) is in sync with the ‘transit time’ of food from the mouth to the colon of the large intestine, ensuring that no stimulus reaches the stomach or digestive system while it remains in homeostasis.

Therefore, for the vast majority of healthy individuals fasting poses no medical risks but in fact provides many health benefits, such as: an increase in serum Magnesium, essential for cardio-vascular health and prevention of heart complications; improvement in the quality and depth of sleep; improvement in memory and slower skin aging over time; increased production of growth hormone, etc. Also, as a general note, it has been observed that underfed animals live longer than their heavily fed counterparts and suffer fewer illnesses during their lives.

Moral Training

The month of Ramadan provides us with a sort of “Boot camp.” It is a month of intense moral training. Since we know that Fasting is a special duty prescribed by God, we learn that any sins may spoil our record of fasting with God, so we go through great lengths making sure we are on our best behavior.

Many people who experience fasting in this month, feel the impact that this intense training has on their habits, and realize the power of this transformative tool designed to make us better human beings- the ultimate goal of any spiritual exercise. The entire Ramadan atmosphere provides the driving force for this positive change.

Consciousness of Life & Death

It makes us realize the reality of life and death. Fasting makes us realize how dependent our lives are on things that we often take for granted, such as food and water. It makes us think about our dependence on God and God’s mercy and justice. Moreover, it reminds us of the life after death, which itself has a great impact on our character and our world-view.

Connection to the Quran

Ramadan is a blessed month for a special reason: It is actually the month in which God first revealed His final message and guidance for mankind to our beloved Prophet Muhammad. This message has been perfectly preserved both orally and textually in the form of a Book, called the Qur’an (The Reading/Recital). Therefore, Muslims try to do an intense study of the Quran in this month especially, and evaluate their lives according to the standards and guidance contained in it.

A time to Celebrate

After the month of Ramadan is over, Muslims celebrate one of the two most important holidays in the Islamic year: EID-UL-FITR, or the Festival of the Fast Breaking. It is a day to thank God for the blessing and training that He provides us with throughout the month of Ramadan. EID-UL-FITR is marked by praying in a huge congregation at an Islamic center or mosque, and by giving a small donation to the poor in the community. The adults give the donation on behalf of their children as well. Dinner parties, family outings, fairs, carnivals, and great joyous celebrations follow the prayer and charity.

In a nutshell, even though the real purpose of the dynamic institution of Fasting is to discipline our soul and moral behavior, and to develop sympathy for the less fortunate, it is a multi-functional and a comprehensive tool of change in various spheres of our lives, including: social and economic, intellectual and humanitarian, spiritual and physical, private and public, personal and common, inner and outer —all in one!

Improve Our Manners

Following are four ways (of course from many) that we can implement to make our relationships with our kin stronger and more of goodness:

1. Dream big – Imagine all the families that crave for just one baby, one family member, one relative. Alhamdulillaah, if Allah (subhanahu wa ta`ala) has blessed you with a good number of kith and kin there is definitely a wisdom behind it. Dream to accomplish noble missions like many of the Prophets accomplished with the support of their families. Dream of having a family that become an exemplary family in the society and that lives in harmony with themselves and as a result extends their help to those who need support to strengthen and survive their families.
In today’s fast moving world, we talk a lot about team work. I say, there can be no greater and more effective team work than the team work of a family that has harmony, love, understanding, compassion and vision in it.

2. Forgiving and moving past their mistakes – Humans are created weak and they will err. What increases our status is how well we deal with these mistakes and errors.

Allah (subhanahu wa ta`ala) says: “But what is with Allah is better and more lasting for those who have believed and upon their Lord rely. And those who avoid the major sins and immoralities, and when they are angry, they forgive”.
{Surah Ash-Shura : Verse 36-37}

Just like you make mistakes, your siblings, parents, relatives also make mistakes. If you cannot forgive them, imagine what would happen if they did not forgive you for your mistakes. There would simply be no life. So, keep the greater goal in mind always, and forgive.

3. Avoiding suspicion – For any relationship to grow it is essential that you keep it clean from deadly suspicions and ornament it with positive thoughts. Whenever shaytan tries to inject suspicion about a family member or a kin, combat it with positive interpretation of their actions. If their actions are too disturbing, you have two options. Either you speak to them directly and sort it out. And this should only be done when you are sure that this will not cause greater rifts. And secondly, be patient, make du’a and continue in doing good from your side. I am sure the results will leave you surprised, insha Allah.

4. Spread goodness with words – Often times, our family gatherings or meetings are filled with unbeneficial talks. If Allah (subhanahu wa ta`ala) has given you a better understanding of His Deen than others, try to make these gatherings full of substance by adding in good talks. You should try to incorporate good words and encourage each other in good deeds in a very wise, calm and natural manner. Those sitting with you should not feel uncomfortable or sense an unnatural conversation. When a family often meets and remind each other of goodness, what do you expect from this family except for goodness?

May Allah (subhanahu wa ta`ala) grant us amazing families, enable us to work on our relationships with our kin and grant us the tawfeeq to work together as one unit for His Deen and keep us united and together in Jannah. Forever.

Authored by Faria Alam ♦ To Read more about the Author CLICK HERE
Edited by Tahira Amatullah ♦ To Read more about the Editor CLICK HERE

Haya is not just feeling shy in front of someone

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Haya is not just feeling shy in front of someone but it consists of many other aspects which can be achieved step wise by assessing ourselves in the following points-

1. Haya in the way we dress
Dress is perhaps the most widely thought of in terms of modesty. Dressing up in the right way as commanded by Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala plays a major role in boosting our imaan as well as bringing us closer to Allah. There are many instances in which people feel close to Allah by just covering themselves up rightly. But we also need to be wary of avoiding boastfulness or vanity about the way we dress.

2Haya in what we watch/read
We should be wary of what we watch on the television or read. Television is the number one source of immodesty followed by books. You can find n number of shows which deal with immodest topics and same goes for books. So, look at the type of shows you’re watching and the kind of books you’re reading. Are they immodest? Are they causing you to lose your sense of shamefulness?

3. Haya in what we say
The way we speak is also a part of Haya. The words we use and our tone matters a lot. The present trend is to use immodest words when expressing either happiness or grief which is fast picking up and also being seen in the Muslim community. Do you use such words? Don’t forget that every word you speak out is going to testify for/against you on the Day of Judgement!

4. Haya in how we treat others
Treat others with respect and kindness is what is taught to us since childhood. But do we really follow that? Treat others like you would want to be treated by others is perhaps the best policy ever which one can follow to maintain this aspect of Haya.

5. Haya in the friends we choose
Yes, your friends circle does matter a lot! A person is more likely to follow what his friends believe and do. Be careful when it comes to maintaining close friendships with people. Ask yourself if this is the type of person you want to be or want to be seen with?

6. Haya in the places we go
As much as it matters how we speak, dress, behave; it also matters that which places we visit. Are the places we visit reminders of all the forbidden or haraam things? Or are you frequenting the right kind of places? Reflect.

7. Haya in what we do
Haya in what we do amongst people is as important as Haya in front of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala, when we’re alone. Our actions when in public and in private should reflect piety and obedience to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala.

Another hadith which mentions Hayais :

Narrated ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar: The Prophet passed by a man who was admonishing his brother regarding Haya and was saying, “You are very shy, and I am afraid that might harm you.” On that, Allah’s Apostle said, “Leave him, for Haya is (a part) of Faith.
(SahihBukhariBook #73, Hadith #139)

Haya brings only good. It can either make or break one’s eeman. It will guide one towards peace of mind. Here is praying that the Muslim ummah all over the world finds it easy to be modest! Ameen!”

Authored by Farheen Naaz ♦ To Read more about the Author CLICK HERE
Edited by Nasmira Firdous ♦ To Read more about the Editor CLICK HERE

Haya’ of the heart

Haya’ of the heart

Haya’ includes a deep-rooted sense of humility that stops one from behaving boastfully, shamelessly promoting oneself at the expense of others, indulging in self-aggrandizement and ascribing goodness and purity to oneself.

The Prophet ﷺ‎ was conscious of preserving the modesty of others and never stared at people directly or reprimanded offenders by name in public. He discouraged his companions from exaggerating their respect for him out of a sense of humility, and never adopted the mannerisms or lifestyle of a spiritual or temporal ‘ruler of men’.

Islam has never imposed artificial squeamishness or hypocrisy in the name of modesty. The Prophet ﷺ‎ was forthright when it came to discussing matters of religion and was often approached by both men and women companions seeking clarifications on personal matters like cleansing after menstruation, conjugal relations and wet dreams.

However, Islam treats conjugal relations with respect and an injunction to not discuss intimate details of one’s married life in public.

Abdullah Bin Umar narrated that the Prophet ﷺ‎, once passed by a man who was admonishing his brother regarding Haya’ saying: “You are too shy, and I am afraid that might harm you.” On that, the Prophet ﷺ‎: “Leave him, for Haya’ is (a part) of Faith” and in another narration, he said: “Haya’ does not bring anything except good.” (Al-Bukhari)

The Prophet ﷺ‎ said, “Every Deen (way of life) has an innate character, a distinct call, and the call of Islam is Haya’.” (Abu Dawood) It is to our benefit to work out the best way to respond to that call, before we fall into error and misguidance.

The personality of the Muslim woman as defined by the teachings of Islam.


She is of good character (has a good attitude towards others) and is sincere and straightforward with all people. She does not cheat, deceive or stab in the back. She is not a hypocrite.

She does not speak falsely (or bear false witness). She offers sincere advice and guides others to good deeds. She keeps her promises. She has the characteristic of modesty and self-respect. She does not interfere in that which does not concern her. She avoids slandering the honour of others and seeking out their faults. She does not show off.

She is fair in her judgements of others. She does not oppress others. She is fair even to those whom she does not like. She does not rejoice in the misfortunes of others. She avoids suspicion. She restrains her tongue from malicious gossip.

She avoids cursing and obscene speech. She does not make fun of anybody. She is gentle with people. She is compassionate. She strives to benefit others and protect them from harm. She eases the hardship of one who is suffering. She is generous.

She does not remind the beneficiaries of her charity. She is patient. She is tolerant. She does not bear grudges or harbour resentment. She is easy-going, not harsh. She is not envious.

She avoids boasting and showing off. She does not speak in an affected or exaggerated manner. She has a likeable personality. She is friendly and likeable. She keeps secrets. She is of cheerful countenance. She has a sense of humour.

She tries to make people happy. She is not over-strict. She is not arrogant. She is humble. She is modest in her dress and appearance. She pursues noble things. She is concerned about the affairs of the Muslims.

She honours guests. She prefers others to herself. She measures her habits and customs against the standards of Islam. She uses the greeting of Islam. She does not enter any house other than her own without permission.

She sits wherever she finds room in a gathering. She does not converse privately with another woman when a third is present.

She respects her elders and distinguished people. She does not look into any house other than her own. She chooses work that suits her feminine nature. She does not imitate men. She calls others to the truth.

She enjoins what is good and forbids what is evil. She is wise and eloquent in her da`wah. She mixes with righteous women. She hastens to reconcile between Muslim women. She mixes with women and puts up with their insults. She appreciates favours and is grateful for them. She visits the sick. She does not attend funerals.

This is the personality of the Muslim woman as defined by the teachings of Islam.