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What Are You Striving for: Dunya or Akhirah?

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Many of us seem to spend an incredible amount of time and energy chasing the dream job. Afterall, a bigger paycheck often translates into a better car, a bigger house and a higher worldly social status.What Are You Striving for: Dunya or Akhirah?

But we are warned about this in The Qur’an:

“Rivalry in worldly increase distracts you (from the remembrance of Allah), till you come to the graves” (102: 1-2).

“Your wealth and your children are but a trial, and Allah has with Him a great reward.” (64:15).

Ever think of the results of all of your worldy efforts?

”It will be, on the Day they see it, as though they had not remained [in the world] except for an afternoon or a morning thereof.” (79:46)

Lavish homes and fancy vacations are temporary worldy fixes whereas dedicating time and effort into something that lasts an eternity make more sense, doesn’t it?

Have you ever stopped for a minute and considered building a house for yourself in Jannah?

”Allah will build house in Jannah for whoever is diligent in observing 12 Sunnah rakat (as follows: 2 before Fajr, 4 rakat before and 2 after Dhur, 2 after the Maghrib, and 2 after Ishaa).” (Tirmidhi)

Yet worries and anxieties are dominating our lives so much so that many of us have missed a few obligatory prayers for some worldly reason. Have we forgotten our appointment with the Angel of Death? Our meeting with Allah?

We have the opportunity for high stations of Jannah – to meet the Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him), to meet the blessed companions (May Alah be pleased with them all), and most of all to see Allah, The Most High! It sounds amazing, doesn’t it? Yet still many of us choose to not strive for Jannah. We have sadly become distracted and absorbed by this dunya, and lost sight of our purpose – worshipping Allah – and our main goal – the pleasure of Allah and subsequently Jannah.

“No, you prefer the life of this world, while the hereafter is better and that which remains” (87: 16-17).

Indeed, the akhirah is better for us; we need to use our time in this dunya to work for it.

So why do we prioritize dunya over Jannah?

1. The Cool Factor
Imagine being denied an eternal life of bliss because…

You neglect your prayers fearing you may not look “cool” among peers
You choose not to live according to what the Quran says fearing ridicule or poverty
You do not wear the hijab and jilbab because it is ‘out of fashion’. Or in some societies, solely wear it for fashion.

You spend hours listening to music or staring at magazines filled with haram pictures
When we sit down and logically think about it, what are we doing? “Our souls are precious, and can only be equal to the price of Paradise. Therefore, sell them only at that price.”

2. The ‘No Time’ Factor.
Our Prophet (May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and the Sahaba (May Allah be pleased with all of them) were much busier than us, yet they never fell short in their duties to worship and remember Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta’ala).

The truth is that we are not busier, but rather we have forgotten our goal and messed up our priorities. The pleasures of this world are nothing compared to those of the Hereafter so why then have we neglected, or even abandoned, our primary duties?

If you find yourself constantly prioritizing dunya over akhirah, it is time to strike a balance:

So you have decided you want to be productive for the Hereafter? Alhamdulillah, making that intention is the first step! If you are still breathing, the doors of repentence are still open and it is not too late to make it to Jannah.

Top 5 Tips:

List your priorities and arrange them accordingly
Use an agenda/time planner to organize your days
Schedule your day around your prayers
Do this as much as you can; make your prayers a priority!
Schedule a realistic and practical time
During this allotted time, you will read Qur’an everyday (you can increase this amount as you progress)

Use the night hours
“Indeed, the hours of the night are more effective for concurrence [of heart and tongue] and more suitable for words. Indeed, for you by day is prolonged occupation. And remember the name of your Lord and devote yourself to Him with [complete] devotion” (73: 6-8).

Try to ensure that you give everything its right – your deen, your health and body, your sleep, your family, your work, so on and so forth.
So what are you waiting for?

If you’re still breathing, then alhamdulillah it’s not too late! Begin now – review how to correctly pray and establish your daily prayers, make a daily habit of reading The Qur’an and then acting upon it, learn sunnah actions and lessons from the life of the Prophet (Peace be upon him). Have eman and work righteous actions, and take small consistent steps to improve – you will enjoy super productivity in this world and joy in the next insha’Allah!

Remember Jannah isn’t for 1 week or 100 years, it’s for eternity and comes with unlimited pleasure. Strive now!

“Other faces that day will be happy; pleased on account of the effort they had put in earlier (in the dunya)”. (88: 8-9)

Your In-Law is ur dear


*Your In-Law, not your enemy.*

Dear sisters in Islam,

Many of us here are suffering from the crisis of In-laws in one way or another. Your in-laws are supposed to be parents to you not friends and not enemies.

The moment you enter his home, your in-laws will surely target you, at first, not with intent to harm you, but with the intent to study the kind of person you are. So don’t blame them, instead, give them a very good side of you.

When you treat your in-laws as enemies or see them as being jealous of you, that is the end of you in that house, and that is when the fight begins.

So how do you live peacefully with your in-laws:

1. Your husband’s mother is not a co-wife to you or an enemy, when you perceive her as one, then you will suffer in her hand and the hand of her son, that is your husband.

2. Treat her like a mother, and never speak ill or bad of her in front of your husband or anyone else.

3. Do not feel arrogant toward her, greet her from time to time, if you live in the same compound, go and greet her every morning. Afterall, greeting could be a way of reducing your sins.

4. Do not argue with her, or raise your voice against her. That should be the last thing you will ever do.

5. Do not feel jealous when your husband does something to her, and did not do to you. Always remember, she is the reason you are his wife. Bcos she gave birth to him. Also remember, he must serve her, bcos Allah says, he can enter paradise is she is pleased with him.

6. If she asks you to do something, do it, do not complain. If you do, then you invite war against yourself.

7. Do not show your love to your husband in front of her, never speak of your love to her, never tell her how much he loves you, never tell her how he pleases you, never tell her what he bought for you. If she notices love and affection between you too, it will create a huge trouble for you, most mothers are jealous.

8. Do not fight with your husband’s siblings especially when she is there, else, you will be in big trouble.

9. When she complains about you, do not deny it especially in front of her, use logic and diplomacy to prove your innocence. The day you call her a liar even if she is one, you are finished.

10. Always apologise to her when you feel she is angry. And remember the rule. In-laws are always waiting for you to make a mistake. So, never hesitate to accept your mistakes and look forward to correcting it.

If you are able to abide by the above rules, then it will be very difficult to face any problem with in-laws.

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To be a Muslim is never by our grace but the grace of Allah


10 Beautiful Advice for Muslims

Blessed is he who is born a Muslim. The life of every Muslim is surrounded by advice and warnings; the verses of the Holy Quran and from prophet Nuh (AS) to Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) were all sent to advise and warn humanity of the bounties of the hereafter and the punishment that awaits the non-believing men and women.

To be a Muslim is never by our grace but the grace of Allah as many are born Muslims but denounced Islam (SubhanAllah). So also, some are born into non-Muslim families but later accepted Islam. Allah decides whom he wants to be a Muslim and those he choose to let astray. The same Quran that will make people see truth and guidance is the same Quran that will lead others astray how wonderful.

This write-up looks into a few pieces of advice that every Muslims should know about as it goes it a long way in strengthening our relationship with the Quran and brings us closer to our creator.

#1-. “Bismillah Hir Rahman Nir Raheem” should be a starter for every single action of your life, from moving your body to performing complex tasks.

#2. Learn to smile where necessary. This is because smiling is one of the simplest forms of worship. Do not allow your condition cast a shadow on your face. Let your problems be known to only Allah.

#3. Be humble, be humane and show compassion while interacting with the needy. In the event that you want to give out charity to the poor try to be nice. Don’t make them feel inferior to you. Smile at them make them know you feel their pain and grieve and pray for them.

#4. Try as much as you can to use your little free times for zikr — like when in the elevator, in the bus, while waiting in the lounge, when climbing the stairs. Use this moment to send as many salutations as you can upon the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).

#5. if you have something good in your heart that you have been praying for or waiting for to happen so dearly, try to be optimistic. Believe that if it was good for you then Allah will definitely grant it to you and if he denies you, then he has something even better for you. In the event that you have something you need, write it down and place it somewhere you can easily glance at it. Put it in your dua especially at fajr, try to wake at least an hour earlier before fajr and ask Allah to make your wish come true.

#6.Try to incorporate the Quran into your daily schedules, make sure a day hardly passes with you reading the Quran. Listen to Quranic recitations and ponder upon the teachings and meanings of the verses. If you are not too good with Arabic try to get the English version and don’t just read but try to practice what the Quran and Sunnah teaches.

#7. Really live your life, enjoy your life, accept whatever situation you have been given & work through it happily. We will be tested with happiness and sadness. For as long as you are alive always expect sadness and happiness and don’t for a second expect either to last forever. Praise, obey and give your life to Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala), live the way Allah created to live following the morals and ways of the Rasul.

#8. Each time you make dua, don’t be like the selfish people who always pray for themselves alone. Try to include your family, friends, parents especially those that have passed on because they can’t pray anymore; they depend on the du’a of the living.


“Never think that your acts of Ibaadah are better than others”


Some have the ability to wake up in the middle of the night for “Tahajjud Salaat” daily, but others can not wake up despite much effort. However, they fast on “Mondays and Thursdays” throughout the year.

Others cannot do both of the above, but wherever they walk, they give “generously to beggars.”

Some don’t have the strength to carry out extra ibaadah, but keep a “clean heart and a smiling face” towards people all the time. Others do nothing but just make kids laugh whenever they meet them.

Some are “scholarly and write well, and others are dynamic speakers,” but the introvert may be more compassionate and just to his staff and even have more “wisdom!”

Many professionals have very little knowledge on Islam, but through da’wah, have been instrumental in “bringing many into the fold of Islam”. They have made many parts of their business shariah compliant.

The “elderly whom many ignore due to their grumpiness”, may not be a political activist or travel on humanitarian missions, but his simple recipes to relieve aches and pains may have more meaning to some.

The simple, but dextrous housewife who puts up with your moods and ensures all your comforts are met, may have “levels of patience, endurance, resourcefulness and humility” that many of the famous lack.

The point? Don’t ever think that those who don’t do what you do are inferior in any way or have nothing to offer. “Never think that your acts of Ibaadah are better than others”. Never let your piety develop subtle pride in you. Never let your piety isolate yourself from family and friends, never let it make you “above the law and ‘holier than thou’”.

Your ancestry, wealth, scholarly abilities, colour of your skin, strength on the battlefield are “not criteria for your piety. There are many in Africa, Europe, Asia, China and the rest of the world who might be closer to Allah than you due to the simple fact that they can bear hardship and overcome trials better than you”.

Your appearance and dressing is not a criteria for piety. There are many in the world who are close to Allah despite them seeming ordinary.

Your affiliation to a Khanqah, Jamaat, any humanitarian organisation, professional club (legal, medical, business, political), or Jihad group, scholarly institute, should be a means of annihilating your ego and pride, not looking down on others. There are many who’s hearts are pure despite not being affiliated to any of the above. “These are not automatic passports into Jannat.”

A prostitute earned the favor of Jannah just by quenching the thirst of a dog, and another earned it by just forgiving everyone daily before going to bed. “They had nothing much to show, but what they did, mattered to Allah.”

Someone may walk through the gates of Jannah with very little, regardless of how unimportant people considered him to be on earth, while others with far greater deeds perish because of their arrogance and pride. “Don’t be surprised if that person leads you in walking through the gates of Jannat.”


The importance of Adaab (manners)

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The importance of Adaab (manners)

With the revelation of Islam and through the noble character of the Messenger of Allah(SAW), the best etiquettes (akhlaaq) and manners were compiled. With regards the importance of maintaining good manners Rasoolillah (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Nothing is weightier on the Scale of Deeds than one’s good manners.” (Bukhari)

Imam Tabaranee also relates a narration where Abu Huraira(RA) said, “I heard Abu al Qasim (the Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam), say, ‘The best among you in Islam are those with the best manners, so long as they develop a sense of understanding.’ ”

And in another hadith the Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “The most beloved of Allah’s servants to Allah are those with the best manners.” (Bukhari, Muslim & Tirmidhi)

Furthermore, Imam Muslim narrated that the Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Do you know who is the bankrupt?” They answered: A bankrupt among us is the person who has neither money nor property.

The Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “The bankrupt in my nation is the one who comes on the Day of Resurrection with prayer, zakat and fasting, yet he used to insult, slander, slay and beat others. Thus claimants are rewarded according to their good deeds. If one’s good deeds are gone, he is punished for his ill deeds until he is thrown into Hell.”

In order to present some of the Islamic etiquette regarding daily life a brief summary of some commonday actions have been presented – May Allah(Subhanahu wa ta’ala) grant us the strength to act upon them.

Rule of Love |

Ibn Taymiyah’s Rule of Love |

❝When you love someone for the sake of Allāh, it is Allāh who you truly love. So whenever you remember that person in your heart, you are reminded of your true love (Allāh) and this automatically increases your love for that person.❞

In another place Ibn Taymiyah explains that when you love someone for a specific reason (what they do for, what they give you, how they make you feel, etc) you don’t really love them, you love that thing they offer, and once that thing is gone, so is your love.

To give us an idea of how important this topic is: Love is at the core of religion; it is a pillar of worship. It is your creed to love Allāh and His Messenger ﷺ more than anyone else or anything else.
And in a ḥadīth, Rasūl Allāh ﷺ tells us that there will be seven groups of people who will be shaded on the Day of Judgement, one group consists of people who loved one another purely for Allāh.
May Allāh make us from them.

May Allāh make His love and the love of His Messenger ﷺ foremost in our hearts. 

Via sister abeer sadary

So “who’s a Productive Muslimah?”

So “who’s a Productive Muslimah?” I hear you asking. We believe a productive Muslimah is a woman who uses all the resources around her with a mission to live her life to excellence, ultimately working to achieve the highest stations in Jannah.

Once a Muslimah in the world is armed with these tools she can achieve some great things insha Allah!

In this article we’re going to start exploring the top 10 tips to becoming a Productive Muslimah and we’ll look at the practical steps you can take to live a more productive life.

1. Have sincere intentions
At Productive Muslim we have a motto which says: ‘Have sincere intentions and work hard’. This is the motto of the life of a productive Muslimah. By beginning with sincere intentions in any of our actions, whether as a working professional by going to work with a good intention to bring about positive difference or as a busy wife or mother looking after the family, we are able to gain rewards and blessings in our actions so start off with a sincere intention always!

2. Be proactive
One of the best lessons I’ve learnt in life is that in order to be productive, we need to be proactive. This doesn’t mean in order to be productive you have to be busy; in fact, busy people may be unproductive. Instead, you must focus your energy on being active in areas which will bring about benefit to your overall life goals insha Allah. For example, one of the ways I am proactive is by attending personal and spiritual development courses and then sharing that with others through writing articles or delivering talks. We find that in the example of the historical and contemporary figures, being proactive is one of the traits of successful Muslimahs.

3. Seek knowledge
It is often said that if you ‘educate a man, you educate an individual, but if you educate a woman you educate a nation’ which highlights the importance of sisters continuously seeking knowledge.

To become a productive Muslimah, seek out courses from those available online through various Islamic organisations to offline seminars and courses locally which will help to develop your knowledge. In the modern era, accessing books on Kindle and in libraries and bookshops means you can read up on almost any subject that you need to develop your knowledge in and then impart it to your children, families and wider community.

4. Plan your time effectively
One of the secrets of being productive is that you don’t waste time! One of the first things a productive Muslimah must do is plan her time effectively, this includes scheduling in time to study, work, pray and spend with family and if you have children slot in time for them and yourself so you don’t burn out. Choose wisely how you spend your time; you can use our fantastic Taskinator online to help you get started. One of the profound sayings on the benefits of utilising time well is by one of the great scholars, Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah who stated: ‘If Allah wants goodness for His slave He aids him with time and makes his time a helper for him.’

5. Be self-reflective
As a proactive Muslimah, it can be difficult at times to assess how effectively you are using time and being able to fulfill all your roles. With this in mind, it is recommended you regularly take time out for self- reflection, perhaps at the end of each day you can journal what went well in your day and also be critical of how you could use your time better for the next day. Only with continual self-reflection and feedback are we able to grow, develop and become more productive insha Allah.

6. Focus on Quality over Quantity
There’s a hadith which often reminds me that as Muslims we need to strive to perfect whatever task or project we embark on; the Prophet ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: ‘Allah loves that when you do anything, you do it with excellence.’ [Muslim] As a Muslimah embarking on any activity, always remind yourself that it has to be quality over quantity. It’s better to excel in one area, such as writing or being a good mother, than to do a mediocre job by focussing on too many things. A productive Muslimah always strives to excel at what she does and isn’t satisfied with mediocrity.

7. Do your best!
Some of the most inspiring stories of the wives of the Prophet ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) and many other productive Muslimahs show that they worked hard to be the best in their roles, such as Khadijah raḍyAllāhu ‘anha (may Allāh be pleased with her) who was a successful business woman. As a wife or a mother, you may focus on being supportive to your husband and that small action alone can be one of the ways you are a productive wife. Giving your best to your roles and task at hand requires focus and for you to expend your energy only at the task at hand.

8. Be resourceful
Living in the information and technology era, we are a generation that have been equipped with many useful technological tools, books, networks and knowledge which we can use to be more productive and organised in our lives. You can use tools online to help manage your time, such as those in our Resources section, to develop your knowledge and learn many new skills online with courses which will make you more resourceful. Use these resources to lead a more productive life.

9. Strive to benefit others
Many of the productive Muslimahs from history to modern day have achieved great things because of their understanding of this beautiful hadith where the Prophet ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: ‘The best of you are those who benefit mankind’. [Bukhari] Always ask yourself this question: ‘will my actions benefit others?’ This will help you to decide what action is worthwhile and help you set up initiatives as a mother, wife, professional or student to bring about benefit to those around you which will also benefit your own self.

10. Put your trust in Allah
Finally, the productive Muslimah, despite her striving and efforts, must always be mindful that success in achieving her goals will only come from Allah who says in the Quran: “Put your trust in Allah if you are believers indeed.” [Qur’an: Chapter 5, Verse 23] This focus on spiritual productivity is the secret ingredient to being successful. As a Muslimah, you must work hard, contribute to society and plan your time effectively around prayers, then place your trust in Allah by always making dua for Him to help you achieve the ultimate success in this life and the Hereafter.

So that’s the top 10 secret tips to become a productive Muslimah but by no means an exhaustive list!

There is a profound statement by Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah which says: ‘Women are one half of society which gives birth to the other half so it is as if they are the entire society.’

If women make up nearly all of society, shouldn’t we be striving to be productive in this life for the next? Yet we know it’s no easy task being a Muslimah today! In fact, being a sister, mother, wife, professional and more means a Muslimah in the modern day can find herself struggling to be productive, trying to juggle all the tasks on that ever-growing to-do list. Here’s the good news though: at Productive Muslim we believe in starting off with a sincere intention and working hard to reach our end goal.

This article originally appeared in SISTERS Magazine, the international magazine for fabulous Muslim women co-founded and edited by Na’ima B. Robert, author of From My Sisters’ Lips. Productive Muslimah readers are entitled to full free copy of the magazine today. Click here to get your free copy of SISTERS Magazine.