Monthly Archives: October 2018

Remember tahajjud

If you find yourself awaken in the midst of the night, counting your worries and an aching heart full of distress within you,

Thinking there is no one who could ever understand, no one who cares, no one to seek help from,

Remember Allāh azza wa jal, waiting for that torn soul to call upon Him so He may respond, so He may help and mend that beautiful aching heart..

Remember tahajjud, the arrow which does not miss its target..

Everything you wish can come true, every sorrow, every pain, every worry can go away with His aid.

Remember Him, and He’ll remember you.

Because you’ll never have anyone in this world like Allāh subhanahu wa ta’ala..

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Having good adab

Dear Muslims,

We all need this reminder from time to time, so here it goes:

having bad adab is *incompatible* with Islam and having good adab is a *prerequisite* to being a good, practicing Muslim.

In other words, if you consider yourself a believer, a practitioner, and a follower of Islam and of the Beloved ﷺ who came to “perfect character” you CANNOT continuously have bad adab with others with impunity.

NO. MATTER. WHAT.

Having bad adab is UGLY and there is NO room for it in our beautiful tradition. Period.

Furthermore, don’t forget that Allah ﷻ sees everything you do, knows well what is in your heart, AND it is ALL being recorded; every foul word, every eye roll, every whisper, every cold shoulder, every rude comment and act, every interruption, every dismissive retort, every insult or slight, etc.

Sooner or later it will catch up to you, and that’s NOT a good thing, a`uthubillah!

You may justify your actions to yourself in this world, but first read the ahadith below and then think LONG and HARD about how FAR your behavior is from that of the Beloved’s ﷺ and the implications of that in the next world:

“The nearest of you to me on the Day of Judgement will be the one who is best in character.” (Bukhari)

“I have not been sent as a Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam, except to perfect character (akhlaaq).” (Bukhari)

“The best of you are those best in character.” (Bukhari)

“Among the most beloved of you to me and the closest to me in sitting on the Day of Judgment are the best of you in character.” (Tirmidhi)

“There is nothing heavier on the scales [on the Day of Judgement] than good character.” (Bukhari)

“The [true] Muslim is one from whose tongue and hands other Muslims are safe.” (Bukhari & Muslim)

May Allah ﷻ guide us, forgive us, and increase us all in adab. Amīn.

– Hosai Mojaddidi

Keeping a Few Friends

Keeping a Few Friends…

Sufyaan ath-Thawri (may Allah have mercy on him) said that one foolishly compromised one’s religion when one kept too many friends. Having too many acquaintances diverts one from one’s duty towards one’s Lord, for a person who has many friends is always busy socializing with them and fulfilling their rights over him; so he becomes preoccupied with people when he really should be preoccupied with his religious duties. The ill-effects of being too gregarious can last well beyond a social gathering. Sufyaan said, “I might meet a brother and as a result, remain heedless (of what I should be doing) for an entire month.”

A friend, Sufyaan insisted, should be someone who helps one to improve as a Muslim; otherwise he is not worth keeping as a friend. Sufyaan expressed this sentiment when he sad, “If someone is not with you, then he is against you.”

And Yousuf ibn Asbaat reported that he heard Sufyaan ath-Thawri say, “Whenever I spoke contrary to the desires of any man, he, regardless of who he was, would inevitably become furious with me. The people of knowledge and piety have departed.”

Sufyaan once advised someone to test the character of the person he wanted to befriend. Sufyaan said, “Choose whoever you want as your companion. But when you have made your choice, make him angry, and then order someone to go and ask him what he thinks about you-without him knowing that you sent that person.”

Bakr ibn Muhammad Al-‘Aabid related that Sufyaan ath-Thawri once said to him, “Direct me to a man with whom I can keep company.” Sufyaan said, “You are searching for something that cannot be found.”

Khalf ibn Ismaa’eel Al-Barzaanee reported that he heard Sufyaan ath-Thawri said, “Acquaint yourself with fewer people, and as a result, you will backbite less (frequently).”

[Biography of Imam Sufyaan ath-Thawri {Pgs. 148-149}]

Ibn Qudamah al-Maqdisi al-Hanbali rahimahullah said:

“Know that not everyone is suitable to be your friend. You must verify that this potential friend has the necessary characteristics that make friendship with him something to be desired. The one you seek to befriend must have five characteristics:

1) He must be intelligent, as there is no good in befriending an idiot, as he will only harm you when he wants to benefit you. By intelligent, we mean one who understands things as they are, either on his own, or if they are explained to him;

2) He must have good manners, and this is a must. One who is simply intelligent might be overcome by anger or desire, and obey his desire. Thus, there would be no benefit in befriending him;

3) He must not be a open sinner, as such a person would not fear Allāh, and whoever does not fear Allāh cannot be trusted;

4) He must not be an innovator, as his abundance of innovation is feared from befriending him;

5) He should not be eager for the wealth of joys of this life (Dunya).”

[Mukhtasar Minhāj al-Qasideen {p.126}]

True relaxation

Causes of Ghaflah…

– Relaxation of the body:
Some people constantly seek out too much relaxation of the body, not realising that this will ultimately lead to loss in the hereafter.

True relaxation can only be gained by tiring oneself in attaining Islamic morals and rising in the stations of faith.

– Immersing oneself in the pleasures of this world: This leads to a person neglecting their obligations and falling into prohibitions.

– Belittlement of sins: Many of those who are heedless, lose feelings of sorrow and regret when committing sins and do not feel they have shortcomings in front of their Lord. Some may even feel that they are upon good when doing these prohibited actions.

– Following desires: Allah says, “For anyone who feared the meeting with his Lord and restrained himself from base desires, Paradise will be home.” [Nazi’at (79):40-41] Allah also says that following desires is at odds with the Truth, “Dawud, We have given you mastery over the land. Judge fairly between people.

Do not follow your desires, lest they divert you from Allah’s path: those who wander from His path will have a painful torment because they ignore the Day of Reckoning.” [S’aad (38):26] -We learn from this verse that those who follow their desires are traversing a path of heedlessness of Allah and the Hereafter.

– Work and earning a livelihood: There is no doubt that we have been commanded to work and earn a livelihood to support ourselves and our dependants. However, it is a mistake to make it into one’s sole preoccupation.

Allah describes the believers as those who do not become unmindful due to trade or commerce, “Shining out in the houses of worship.

Allah knew that they would be raised high and His name be remembered in them, with men in them celebrating His glory morning and evening: men who are not distracted, either by commerce or profit.” [Nur (24):36-37]

– Recreational games and sports: These can also lead to ghaflah if they become a person’s sole concern and preoccupation.

The following are some of the things a person can become heedless of:

– Learning about the religion;

– Studying and memorising the Qur’an;

– Engaging in remembrance of Allah;

– Preserving the daily invocations that serve as protection for a person;

– Bringing to mind their intentions when performing actions;

– Prioritising acts of worship.

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Sabr is..

What is Sabr?

The arabic word sabr means restriction and detention. In Islaam, it means the preventing of one’s soul from reaching the point of despair and panic, and to refrain from tearing one’s clothes out of grief. If’s a classical word mentioned in the Glorious Quran, the Hadith and the Arab poetry. In the Glorious Quraan we read;

“And keep yourself content with those who call on their Lord morning and evening, seeking His Face.”

Al-Kahf, ayah 28

~Ibn al-Qayyim, The way to patience and gratitude

Be so close to the Quran

This is a beautiful message that I’d love to share with you!

I don’t know the author but it’s a voice of my heart!

Be so close to the Qur’an that with every turn of its page, your heart also turns. You undergo a change of character; and come out better. You come closer to Allah and you understand your religion more.

Be so close to the Qur’an that not only do you consider it to be your companion in life, but it also considers *you* to be its companion both here and on Yawm al-Qiyamah (Day of Resurrection).

Be so close to the Qur’an that whenever you open to read it, it draws you in deeply and takes you on amazing journeys through power concepts and thought-provoking dialogue, through history and the undisputed facts of the future and Hereafter; learning life lessons and learning about yourself. The journey doesn’t end until you end it (by closing the Book).

Be so close to the Qur’an that you make it your first point of judgement and guidance when you quarrel or fall out with a relative, spouse, friend or stranger. You place it before you with the sincerity to resolve matters and follow the causes for peace.

Be so close to the Qur’an that if you happen to miss your daily portion of it, it preoccupies your mind and you are not at peace until you take your regular nourishment from it.

Be so close to the Qur’an that just hearing the words, “O you who believe…” strikes something within your heart. You are all ears and attentive; ready to respond.

Be so close to the Qur’an that you truly feel its blessings in your life.

Be so close to the Qur’an that while many love listening to music and lyrical tunes, for you nothing can beat the melodious recital of your favourite Surah (chapter).

Be so close to the Qur’an that you actually walk F E A R L E S S. In every place, at all times, and every stage of your life. Your fear is only from One Being, and He is above His Throne, `azza wa jall.

Be so close to the Qur’an that the mere contemplation of a verse brings tears to your eyes.

Be so close to the Qur’an that after a long and tiring day, all you want to do is make wudhu’ (ablution) and sit down in a cosy spot for some heartwarming reading and reflection.

Be so close to the Qur’an that it becomes the first companion you turn to when you need to hear comforting words, or a shoulder to lean on in difficult times, or guidance in times of confusion. It becomes your first point of contact alongside salah (prayer) and du’a (supplication).

Be so close to the- Qur’an that its melodious verses drown away the meaningless chatter of this world and you prefer listening to it instead of listening to much of Mankind…
Be so close to the Qur’an that you become recognised for it; in your character and the way you carry yourself through life.

Be so close to the Qur’an that being in its company makes you feel like you are in the best company; the most serene, thought-provoking, heart-warming, and tranquil of gatherings. People think you are alone… but you are anything but alone.

Be so close to the Qur’an that you can’t fathom the idea of dying without having memorised it. You can’t see yourself standing in front of Allah in complete ignorance of His Book, His Verses, His Words.

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Strive for good deeds

Death and the Advice of Imam Al Qurtubi

Think, O’ you who are deceived by this world, of death and its agonies, how difficult and bitter a cup it is. What a true promise death is! How fair a judge it is! Death is enough to fill the heart with fear and the eyes with tears, to separate people, destroy pleasure and put an end to all worldly hopes.

Have you given any thought, O’ son of Adam, to the day when you will die and will be taken out of your place? When you will move from spaciousness (of this world) to the confines (of the grave), when friends and loved ones will let you down, and brothers and friends will desert you?

When you will be taken from your bed and placed in a hole in the ground, and instead of a soft blanket you will be covered with dust and earth?

O’ gatherer of wealth, O’ industrious builder, by Allah you will have nothing left of your possessions except shrouds, and even they will be destroyed and will vanish as your body disintegrates and turns to dust.

Where is the wealth that you amassed? Will it save you from these terrors? No indeed, you have left it behind for those who will not praise you, and you have come with your burdens (of sin) to One Who will not excuse you.

Imagine yourself, O’ you who have been deceived by this world, when the agony of death and stupor of death overwhelms you, and you start moaning in the throes of death.

There will some who will say, ‘So and so has made a will, and his wealth has been calculated,’ others will say, ‘So and so can no longer speak, he does not recognise his neighbours and he does not speak to his brothers.’ It is as if I can see you listening to these words and unable respond.

Imagine yourself, O’ son of Adam, being taken from your bed to the place where your body will be washed and shrouded, and being forsaken by your family and neighbours, wept over by your friends and brothers.

Imagine the one who has washed your body saying, ‘Where is the wife of So and so to forgive him? Where are the orphans? Your father has left you and you will never see him again after this day.’

Where is the wealth that you have gathered and prepared for hardship and terror? There is no money in your hand when you are dying. The wealth and pride that you enjoyed have been replaced with humiliation and poverty.

What has become of you, O prisoner of your burdens, O’ you who have been taken away from your family and your home? What was it that concealed the right path from you, and caused you to have no interest in making provision for your long journey and time of difficulty?

Did you not know, O’ you who were deceived by this world, that this journey to the Day of intense horror was inevitable, when the time spent gossip would be to no avail?

That is the Day when you are standing before the Sovereign, the Judge, and the blows struck by your hands, the places where feet took you, the words uttered by your tongue, the actions of all your limbs and faculties, will be counted against you.

If Allah has mercy on you, you will go to Paradise, otherwise you will go to the Fire of Hell.

O’ negligent one who ignores these matters, how long will this negligence last? How long will you delay? O you think that the issue is insignificant? Do you think that the matter is easy? Do you think that your situation will help you when it is time for you to depart? Or that your wealth will save you when your actions condemn you? Or that your regret will help you when your feet are slipping? Or that your friends will show you any sympathy when you are gathered (for judgement)?

No, by Allah, you are wrong in your thinking, and you will inevitably come to know the reality. You are not content with enough, you never have your fill of that which is haram, you do not listen to lessons, you are not deterred by warnings. You persist in following desires and you go about your life without guidance. You are happy with the things that you have accumulated but you do not think what lies ahead.

O’ you who are sleeping unaware, wandering without guidance, for how long will the neglect last? Do you think you will be left alone and let off, and that you will not brought to account tomorrow? Or do you think that death can be bribed? Or do you think that death distinguishes between gazelle and lion?

No, by Allah, wealth and sons can never ward off death from you. Nothing can benefit those who will be forgiven except righteous deeds. So good news to those who listen and understand, who practise what they preach, and are deterred from following their whims and desires, those who know that the victor is the one who pays heed, and that man will have he has striven for.

So wake up from this negligence, and make righteous deeds the provision with which you equip yourselves. Do not wish to attain the status of the righteous when you are weighted down with the burden (of sin), doing immoral deeds, when Allah is watching you even when you are alone.

Do not be so deceived by hopes and wishes that you neglect to strive.

One poet said,

Take provision from this life to help yourself in the Hereafter.

Strive for the sake of Allah and do good deeds.

Do no accumulate too much in this world,

For that accumulation will eventually diminish.

Would you like to accompany people

Who have provision when you do not?”

Source: Tadhkirat Al Qurṭubī