We all need this reminder from time to time, so here it goes:
having bad adab is *incompatible* with Islam and having good adab is a *prerequisite* to being a good, practicing Muslim.
In other words, if you consider yourself a believer, a practitioner, and a follower of Islam and of the Beloved ﷺ who came to “perfect character” you CANNOT continuously have bad adab with others with impunity.
NO. MATTER. WHAT.
Having bad adab is UGLY and there is NO room for it in our beautiful tradition. Period.
Furthermore, don’t forget that Allah ﷻ sees everything you do, knows well what is in your heart, AND it is ALL being recorded; every foul word, every eye roll, every whisper, every cold shoulder, every rude comment and act, every interruption, every dismissive retort, every insult or slight, etc.
Sooner or later it will catch up to you, and that’s NOT a good thing, a`uthubillah!
You may justify your actions to yourself in this world, but first read the ahadith below and then think LONG and HARD about how FAR your behavior is from that of the Beloved’s ﷺ and the implications of that in the next world:
“The nearest of you to me on the Day of Judgement will be the one who is best in character.” (Bukhari)
“I have not been sent as a Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam, except to perfect character (akhlaaq).” (Bukhari)
“The best of you are those best in character.” (Bukhari)
“Among the most beloved of you to me and the closest to me in sitting on the Day of Judgment are the best of you in character.” (Tirmidhi)
“There is nothing heavier on the scales [on the Day of Judgement] than good character.” (Bukhari)
“The [true] Muslim is one from whose tongue and hands other Muslims are safe.” (Bukhari & Muslim)
May Allah ﷻ guide us, forgive us, and increase us all in adab. Amīn.
– Hosai Mojaddidi