Category Archives: Fiqh of The Family.

Islam For Kids  Tarbiyatul Aulad fil Islam. 

Islam For Kids  Tarbiyatul Aulad fil Islam.

As an advice to myself and others, nurture your children upon knowledge from an early age. Such as:

1. Teach them to read the Qur’aan as soon as they can read and speak.
2. Encourage them to memorise the soorahs from the last juzz even at a young age i.e. 3-4 years old.

3. Get them to read Islaamic books for children and read to them regularly.
4. Give particular attention to books on Tawheed and the beliefs of the Muslim, also books on how to make wudhoo and perform Salaah.

5. Take your boys to the Masjid from a young age, teach them how to sit in the Masjid and encourage them to give Salaam and shake hands.
6. Instill in them love for Islaamic clothing from a young age, for boys thowbes cut above the ankles and koofees and for girls the hijaab.

7. Teach them the names of the Prophets and read to them their stories also stories of the companions and the Scholars of the past.

8. Teach them short dua’as and etiquettes of eating, drinking, going to the toilet etc.
9. Teach them manners from an early age, how to speak to elders and how to show respect.

10. Encourage them to appreciate the creation around us, show them animals and trees, link this to Tawheed.

Do all this and more from as young an age as you can, even if that be 3 years old or 4.

Rights of a Wife upon Her Husband


12 Rights of a Wife upon Her Husband:

1. To spend upon her, to feed her. Not to be excessive in this and not to be stingy.

2. To be kind to her.

The Prophet (ṣallallāhu ʿalayhi wa-sallam) said: “The best among you is the one who is the best towards his wife.“

3. Not to harm her.

4. To be loving to her, examples:

(A) Loving to her with your tongue. Nice words, tell her you love her. Tell her how good she looks.

(B) If your wife asks you to get her something and you can’t get it , say I’ll get it in shaa’ Allāh.

© That the man beautifies himself with that which is reasonable, (not intimating women).

(D) From being loving to your wife is that you help her with housework. This is from the example of the prophet (ṣallallāhu ʿalayhi wa-sallam)

(E) That he is to be playful with his wife.

(F) Sharing food with her.

(G) To cuddle with her.

(H) Sleep under the same cover.

(I) they would bathe together:

On the authority of ‘Āʿishah (raḍī Allāhu ʿʿʿanhu) who said: “I used to bathe with the Prophet from a single container of water which was placed between us such that our hands collided inside it. He used to race me such that I would say: “Leave some for me, leave some for me!’ She added: `We were in a state of Janaabah (i.e. the state of having slept together).’”[Al-Bukhārī and Muslim].

5. That the men must not curse or swear at his wife, or insult her appearance.

6. A man must not boycott her and if he does (for a valid reason) he should do it inside of the home.

7. A man should not expose the secrets of his wife

“Verily among the worst people before Allāh on the Day of Judgement is a man who approaches his wife sexually and she responds and then he spreads her secrets.” [Muslim, Ibn Abī Shaybah, Aḥmad and others].

8. A man should not hate his wife. Exalt the good and minimise her shortcomings.

A man should not be angry at her faults and should look at her good. To look only good in her.

9. That he should make things easy upon her e.g. The chores and what he requires from her.

10. He should have the best manners with his wife. His wife should see the best of his manners. It is said that some men have the best manners out in the market , but when he goes home he is a ferocious lion! Kind to strange women in the markets but not to his wife in the home. The best of you are the best of you to your wives. There is no good in you if you want to help your friends but not your wife, there is no good in you if you are kind to your friends and not your wife. Comibne the two , and that is good.

11.  That the husband should be a reason for his wife to be saved from the hellfire. He should teach her and order her to forbid the evil and enjoy the good. Forbidding her from that which will lead to hell fire.

O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allāh in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.

12. That the man should have some type of jealousy for his wife.

Jealousy of protecting her from evil, not for her to be exposed to strange men , not for her to speak to strange men etc.  but not the abusive jealousy…


When the children would cry

How did the Sahaabiyyaat go about teaching their children?
Umm ‘Abdillaah (hafithahallaah) gave the example of Umm Sulaym, the mother of Anas (radhiyallaahu ‘anhumaa) who sent her son to serve the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) at a very young age.
– He served him for 10 years.
– He was not a slave.
Umm Sulaym encouraged Anas to be with Rasoolullaah (صلى الله عليه وسلم). There’s no difference between the male and female student of knowledge.
Umm Sulaym wanted Anas to get blessings and ‘benefit from the ilm of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم). She wanted him to get practical knowledge.
Umm ‘Abdillaah gave another example:
She spoke about the time when the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) sent Anas to do something for him. He met his mother on the way and she asked him where he was going. He replied that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم sent him somewhere.
Umm Sulaym then told him to never convey the Prophet’s secrets.
The Sahaabiyaat (radhiyallahu ‘anhunna) made their children fast on the Day of Ashoorah. They assisted their children in fasting. When the children would cry for food, the mothers would give them toys so that they would complete the fasting – and they completed it.
The Companions stressed to the children to accompany the scholars.
Umm ‘Abdillah gave the story of Hudhayfah bin Yaman (radhiyallahu ‘anhu).
He was the only Sahabi who knew the names of the Munaafiqoon (hypocrites) and he kept this secret. ‘Umar Al Farooq (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) asked about the list of names and that Hudhayfah did not reveal what the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) told him.
So ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) asked if he was on the list. Umm ‘Abdur Rahmaan also mentioned the famous narration: “Hudhayfah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) stated that the companions used to ask about the good, but he would ask about the evil so that he would not fall into it.”
Hudhayfah was not being consistent with the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم and his mother noticed this. She asked him when was the last time he was with him.
She gave him a stern advice. Hudhayfah said, “enough, enough, I will go to the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم). I will pray Salaatul Maghrib with him then ask him to forgive me.”
He prayed behind the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم, he did not get a chance to speak with him so he waited until Salaatul ‘Eeshaa. Rasoolullah began to leave and Hudhayfah called him. He صلى الله عليه وسلم said, “Is that Hudhayfah?” He replied, “yes.”
Rasoolullah صلى الله عليه وسلم said, ”Angels are present that have never come before, Allaah forgives you and your mother.” He was forgiven before he had the chance to ask the Prophet to forgive him. He was very much attached to the Prophet after that.
The Sahaabiyaat (radhiyallaahu ‘anhunna) used :
– to send their children out in the best possible manner.
– They were clean and looked good.
Umm ‘Abdillaah gave the example of Faatimah (radhiyallaahu ‘anhaa) bint Rasoolillah who would send out Hasan and Hussein to the Prophet in a good way.
– They were bathed,
– dressed in good clothes and
– perfumed.
Umm ‘Abdillah emphasized teaching the children the halaal (lawful) and haraam (unlawful).
Example: Either Hasan or Hussein saw some dates next to the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم and went to grab some.
He صلى الله عليه وسلم stopped him to teach him the hadeeth:
– Command the children to pray at age 7,
– discipline them for not praying at 10,
– separate the beds (encourage them to pray on a regular basis).”
Excerpts taken from a Q/A given by Umm ‘Abdillaah al Waadi’iyyah
Translated by Umm ‘Abdir Rahmaan Hanim
*Edited for clarity – Umm Hasna Firdous Bint Jabir as-Saylaani

An Ideal Muslim Household


Establishing a Muslim Household Through The Remembrance of Allah 

The Messanger of Allah, صلى الله عليه و سلم, said

“A house wherein Allah is remembered and a house wherein he is not remembered are like the living and the dead bodies.” (Muslim 1/539).

The home which is fortified by the remembrance of Allah is a home in which the enemies from the devils have no entry into. in fact, the shaytaan flees from such a home, as the Prophet, صلى الله عليه و سلم, said, “Do not turn your house into graveyards, for verily shaytaan runs away from the house in which surat Al-Baqarah is recited.” {Muslim}

If the home is found upon weakness and frailty, it will consequently resemble the home of a spider in weakness, as Allah, The Most High, said,

وَ إِنَّ  أَوْهَنَ  الْبُيُوتِ  لَبَيْتُ  الْعَنكَبُوتِ  ۖ لَوْ  كَانُوا  يَعْلَمُونَ

And indeed, the weakest of homes is the home of the spider, if they only knew. 29:41

[PAMPHLET] An Ideal Muslim Household – Abu Fajr AbdulFattaah bin Uthman


Dear Brothers Have some Gheerah for your wife


Dear Brothers  Have some Gheerah for your wife.

So now we have the brothers that even worse than the sisters who post their selfies online ..

We have brothers that don’t even fear falling under the categori on being a Dayooth despite this Hadith:

Abdullaah ibn ‘Umar(rA) reported that the Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa Sallam) said: “Three people will not enter paradise, and Allaah will not look to them on the Day of Judgement:

  • the one who is disobedient to his parents,
  • the woman who imitates men and
  • the ad-Dayooth.” (Ahmad)

Ad-Dayooth is the man who permits women for whom he is responsible (eg: mother, wife, sister etc.) to engage in illicit sexual relations, or to display their beauty to strange men, thereby stimulating their sexual desires.

You claim that you have Gheerah for this Deen,  but isn’t this same deen also telling you to have Gheerah for your womenfolk?

What makes you think that displaying your wife to show how much you love her will do you any good? 

Besides that it is haraam, how can you ignore the fact that you’re making your own Izzah eye candy for strange men!!

Ya akhi Fear Allah!! I once read something like “this best sign of a healthy relationship is no sign of it online at all” You love your wife?

Thank Allah by protecting what is yours or go tell her that.

There’s no need to tell the entire world and then  be shocked over the evil eye or anything else.

Have some Gheerah for your wife!

By dea beloved @ummomar