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Sunnah of Pregnancy

SUNNAH OF PREGNANCY

Having children is one of the blessings of Allah. God provides us all with different rizq (well-being), health and offsprings. All of these things are gifts from God and we should be grateful for what we are given and never complain for what we don’t have.

⏩It is sunnah to announce the birth of the child once the baby arrives but till that moment below are some beneficial practices for you and your child in sha Allah.

💮KEEP IT PRIVATE
If you are expecting a baby, keep thanking God for this gift and keep it private among close relatives. There is a general principle which should be paid attention to when telling others of blessings. The news should be given only to those who wish good for you and will rejoice over it, so as to ward off the evil eye and destructive envy (hasad). The evidence for that is the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “Be discreet in order to achieve what you want, for everyone who is blessed is envied.”

Narrated by al-Tabaraani and Abu Nu’aym; classed as sahaah by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 943.

💮BE THANKFUL
Be thankful to Allah for having chosen you for such a gift. The first trimester is hard for some women who suffer from nausea (morning sickness) and weakness; and the last weeks of pregnancy are exhausting:
Allah says in the Quran: “…His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness…” (Surah Luqman:14)

“…His mother carried him with hardship and gave birth to him with hardship…” (Surah al-Aĥqaf:15)

– even then, keep thanking Allah and believe that He will never burden you more than you can bear! He is indeed the best of planners and knows what is best for us!

💮FOLLOW THE FOOTSTEPS OF THE MOTHER OF Maryam (AS)
What a blessed mother was she who gave birth to Maryam! So why not follow her footsteps and make the same dua (supplication) she did when she was expecting as narrated in the Quran: “[Mention, O Muhammad], when the wife of ‘Imran said: My Lord, indeed I have pledged to You what is in my womb, consecrated [for Your service], so accept this from me. Indeed, You are the Hearing, the Knowing.” (Surah Aal Imran: 35)

With this dua, renew your intention every day that this baby would be a pious servant of Allah. Insha’Allah your intentions and prayers will have a positive effect in creating an innate bond between your child and the deen (religion) of Allah!

💮WHEN RUH (SOUL) ENTERS YOUR BABY
It is narrated in a hadith by the Prophet (sa) that: “Each one of you is constituted in the womb of the mother for forty days, and then he becomes a clot of thick blood for a similar period, and then a piece of flesh for a similar period. Then Allah sends an angel who is ordered to write four things. He is ordered to write down his deeds, his livelihood, his (date of) death, and whether he will be blessed or wretched (in religion). Then the soul is breathed into him…” (Bukhari)

Based on this hadith, jurists have inferred that the soul enters the foetus at around 4 months/120 days after gestation, that is, the second trimester. As you enter your second trimester, make frequent dua to Allah to pre-ordain for your baby a life of unwavering faith.

💮RECITE THE QURAN FOR YOUR BABY
Around the 20th week, the baby in the womb gains the ability to hear. This is a great time to create a one-on-one, exclusive bond with your unborn baby by reciting the Quran every day. The sound waves of your voice will reach your baby and what better words than the melodious Quran for your baby to hear and get familiar with. Give your child a head start in creating a relationship and bond with the Quran even before he comes in this world. This is one of the greatest gifts you can give to your child!

💮READ UP
Perhaps one of the things that the woman should focus on during this period is learning about sound methods of raising children, reading books on this topic or listening to useful lectures by scholars on it, whether that has to do with moral upbringing, health, psychology, pedagogy, and so on, in preparation for the great mission with which Allah has entrusted the parents, which is the trust of raising and caring for the child, so that the parents may embark upon it with knowledge and insight and achieve the best results, and attain the pleasure of Allah in this world and in the Hereafter.

💮DUAS
As for the acts of worship that the pregnant woman can do, they are all the acts of worship that the Muslim does by day and by night, such as praying, fasting (so long as there is no fear of harm), giving charity, reading Qur’aan, regularly reciting the adhkaar that are prescribed in sharee‘ah, treating people kindly, visiting relatives, taking stock of oneself, and striving to attain the best attitudes, actions and words

💮FOOD AND FITNESS
Meditation through prayer: Many people will guide you towards yoga and meditation, which are a great way to relax your overworked body. However remember that prayer is the best form of meditation and it will calm you and soothe your baby as well.

💮Keep checking in with Allah: Stay connected with Allah and talk to Him about your fears and difficulties. Make istikharah (guidance prayer) for all decisions, especially when choosing your doctor and your delivery options. Ask Allah to grant you a safe delivery, a righteous child, and an easy transition into motherhood.

💮Avail the maternity leave Allah has given, if needed: The Prophet (sa) said: “Allah has relieved the traveller of half of the prayer and of the duty to fast, and He has relieved pregnant and nursing mothers (of the duty to fast).” (Sunan an-Nasa’i; reliable) If you feel that you are unable to fast due to weakness or any other complication, you can leave your fast without any worry. However do remember to mark it somewhere so that you don’t forget to make it up later.

💮Eat beneficial foods: Add honey, milk, figs, and dates to your diet as all of these have been mentioned in the Quran or the hadith for their benefits.
♥️May Allah make our pregnancy easy, and grant us pious child who will be sadqa e jariah for us…

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The Fitnah of the Eyes !

The Fitnah of the Eyes !

This is for all the sisters who post pictures and videos of themselves online in niqāb (with their eyes showing) and refuse to believe that it is Fitnah. The Imām here clearly said it’s fitnah.

So fear Allāh sisters, and remove your niqābi pictures and videos from the internet (that includes your profile picture). You are not spreading goodness, you are only spreading fitnah.

No Muslim woman with an ounce of hayah (modesty & shyness) would be comfortable having pictures and videos of herself (even if she’s in niqāb) spread online for the entire world to see 24/7 – and available for any man in the world to save, download and share with others.

Fear Allāh.

The purpose of your niqāb is to conceal your beauty, take attention away from you and keep you hidden from the eyes of men. When you post pictures and videos of yourself in it – you have defeated its main purpose. You are asking for attention from men when you display pictures and videos of yourself online publicly.

(Also, it’s actually becoming quite popular for women who don’t even regularly wear the niqāb to post pictures and videos of themselves wearing it online, just to get attention & fame. These women are ruining the image of niqāb and Muslim women in general.)

And for the sisters who post pictures & videos of themselves without niqāb or anything besides their eyes showing (face, hands, etc.):

If posting pictures & videos of the eyes are fitnah, then imagine how much fitnah posting pictures & videos of the face, hands and feet are (which are ‘awrah and harām for a Muslim woman to show in the first place)!

You’re getting sin 24/7 every time a man sees your pictures & videos – and those sins increase even more when they share those pictures and videos with other people!

And for the brothers:

If looking at a woman in niqāb is harām, then imagine how much sin you get for looking at a woman’s face?! Some of you guys even think it’s okay to look at a woman just because you’re talking to her & vice versa, which is completely false. Fear Allāh & lower your gaze

And Allāh knows best

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So, supplication is the key to all that is good in this life and the Hereafter

❝Women are weak, and they are influenced very quickly. She hears an attractive phrase, beautified speech, tempting words, and statements that she believes are from the angle of advice for her so she is put to trial by all of that.

However, it is upon the woman to be alert and clever, to have in front of her two eyes the fear of her Lord, the remembrance standing in front of Allaah and that Allaah will ask her about what came in His book and the Sunnah of His Prophet (sall Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam).

And it is upon her in this situation to be plentiful in supplication and to beseech Allaah to protect her from trials, to cover her body, to grant her safety from her fears, and to protect her with what He protects His righteous slaves.

So, supplication is the key to all that is good in this life and the Hereafter, and along with supplication, she exerts herself in acting out beneficial causes for safety, rescue, escape, and separation from these destructive affairs.❞

[A Piece of Advice & Admonition For The Women By Shaykh ‘Abdur-Razzāq Ibn ‘Abdul Muhsin Al-Abbād, Page 84 & 85 | Translated By Jameel Finch]

Does ur husband not have protective jealousy over you?

Bro, you let your wife dress like that in public? Don’t be a Dayooth protect your queen..

Sisters when ur flouncing about feeling so free and happy and ‘liberated’ because ur husbands allow u to any time leave the house or mix with non mahram men or put ur pictures up on instagram dolling yourself up with a glossy pout And seductive eyes & an improper Hijab which u try to convince your self is ‘Fine’ because of merely covering ur hair with a scarf is enough then ask your self this…..

Does ur husband not have protective jealousy over you???

Does he not mind showing u or letting u talk to his friends and Non mahram relatives???

Does he not mind u leaving ur house without covering properly or having a face full of makeup???

Does he not mind when lewd people stare at you & cook “Biriyani” upon their head???

Does he not care about your honor and dignity???

Does he not mind that thousands of other men can see ur photos on social networking sites by zooming in & out???

If Not then there is a huge problem with his imaan as the obligation of Parda (Hijab) isnt just on ur head, its on your husbands eye too because if he doesnt have protective jealous of you, he is a Dayyooth and prohibited from Jannah.

One who lacks ghayrah; one who does not care if (non mahram) men approach his wife, mother, sister or daughter… He is dayooth.

A dayyooth is prohibited from entering Paradise.

❝Three people will not enter paradise, and Allâh will not look to them on the day of Judgement: The one who is disobedient to his parents, the woman who imitates men and the ad-Dayooth.❞

Ibn al-Qayyîm rahimahullaah said:

❝And the dayyooth (the man with no jealousy over the woman and his family) is the most vile of Allâh’s creation, and Junnah is forbidden for him, (because of his lack of Gharyah-jealousy).A man should be ❝jealous❞ with regard to his wife’s honor and standing.

He should defend her whenever she is slandered or spoken ill of behind her back.

Actually, this is a right of every Muslim in general but a right of the spouse specifically.

So please Akhi, have protective jealousy for your wife & sisters plz guard your modesty.

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Success for the woman comes from having Taqwa and good manners

Maryam is the only woman to be mentioned in the glorious Quran by name. She suffices as a female role model for sisters. Let us look at the two main beautiful characteristics of Maryam:

1. A devout worshipper.

2. Chaste and pure

A woman’s worth is by how much she pleases her Creator and how she preserves herself, protects her honour, and safeguards her chastity.

Maryam’s mother wanted her to be a boy so he could serve Bait AlMaqdas. That was a lofty role designated for men only and a girl couldn’t do that role. However, the mother of Maryam was blessed with the best woman to have ever walked the earth.

Sometimes in life, we want the necessary means to be able to reach the best ends. The Creator SWT can bless us with the best results even if the means aren’t present.

Maryam had Isa AS without ever being touched. When the Creator SWT decrees something He says to it Be and it is. Means are only means so don’t rely on them fully or give up when you don’t have them. The Creator SWT can bless you with miracles.

Sisters must take Maryam as their role model and dedicate their time to worshipping their Creator SWT and protecting their private parts and honour. That way all good will come to them. Good isn’t attained by relying fully on men or intermingling with them or competing with them (by entering their fields and doing exactly what they do).

Success for the woman comes from having Taqwa and good manners which entails lowering her gaze from men, avoiding free mixing, and staying at home as the default (only going out in cases of necessity or for a good reason).

The reward for prayer in the home for the woman is greater than the Masjid so why would a woman, want to offer her prayers frequently in the Masjid? The woman is rewarded immensely for looking after the home and children and that is in alignment with her constitution, so why would she want to spend her life outdoors? The woman is rewarded for making her husband happy when he looks at her, for obeying him (not a narcissistic relationship), and for preserving his honour and wealth, so why should she resort to a lifestyle where she can’t do these things, if she wants reward?

Read the story of Maryam and derive the uncountable gems and wisdom from it…

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She’s a matured type of sister.

Shaykh Fareed Abdullah said: the Prophet (ﷺ‎‬) said marry al-wadood al-walood.

al-wadood is that type of lady, she causes the atmosphere around you to be perfumed. Because of how good she is in her character.

She makes the dunya pleasant for you. She knows how to get you to smile when you’re down, when things are rough how to rub you on your neck and your shoulders and to speak to you in a way that comforts you.

She’s a matured type of sister.

She knows when to present an issue and when not to.

She says, “Well it’s not the appropriate time, I could see where his head is, let me just leave this all for now.”

Shaykh Fareed Abdullah goes on with this. And it hit home so hard when I heard these words.

Displaying oneself on social network

Instagram and the Vanity of Social Networks

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Published on 1 May 2016

A brief reminder from Ḥasan al-Ṣumālī concerning Instagram and the love of displaying oneself on social networks, sinning and showing off one’s sins.

The noble speaker reminds the listeners to remember death: the destroyer of desires.

How lowly is it to not only sin but to show off one’s sins, with no shame, no fear, no realisation of the return to Allāh.

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