Category Archives: Gems
Most people expect life is going to be like a bus trip.You simply choose your destination. You hop on the bus. You arrive at your destination. It’s fair. It’s straightforward and it’s easy.
But life is not like a bus ride. It’s more like a sail boat.You get on.
You intend to go in a certain direction.but the wind takes you somewhere else.There’s rocky seas, followed by calm seas, followed by dark nights, storms, crashing waves, some more calm and some more storms.It’s up and down.
You have to adjust to the wind. You have to survive the storms… and you have to endure the challenges if you want to see the sun shine another day.
In life things will never go to plan all the time. Sometimes it’s challenging. Sometimes it’s dark and stormy. You must keep going, you must remain strong if you want to enjoy the blessings that are coming.
The sun is always shining – even on the cloudiest of days. There is always a silver lining.
Sometimes those big crashing waves and those dark storms are sent to guide your boat in a different direction.
A better direction. Sometimes GROWTH can only occur in deep pain. Sometimes there’s a deeper meaning for your life and if you’re brave enough to listen.You might just hear WHY.
Just because there’s storms and dark nights doesn’t mean life isn’t beautiful.That’s WHY life is beautiful.
It’s in those challenges and in that contrast that we discover life’s greatest gifts.Life would be pretty boring if we just picked our destination and arrived at the same place day in and day out… The blessings come from the contrast.
The blessings are in our growth. The blessings are the rainbows after the storms – you know, the beautiful things that come after the rain, but only if you have your eyes open.
Don’t miss out on that magic by being blinded by the darkness. Believe life is a miracle and it will be one for you. Keep sailing, have faith you will reach your very own paradise – life might just have one more blessing for you yet.
Media Mind Control (Beware) ..
How does the media attempt at mind control, and can it really work?
To understand how one can control the mind, one has to look at the function and structure of the brain.
The brain is made up of many pathways called ‘neurons’. These neuron pathways make up the white and grey matter of the brain; so from this information you can gather that the brain in its entirety is completely made up of these neurons.
Neuron pathways are the transmitters of chemicals and hormones which control our emotions and other vital performances to ensure survival and management of other bodily things.
There are different types of neuron pathways, and each different type performs a different function by conducting different chemicals or hormones to and fro different parts of the body and the brain.
If there is more or less of a certain hormone, the brain changes shape to accommodate. Brain shape changes can influence and morph behaviour, altering the way we think and feel about things. This is called ‘neuroplasticity’.
The more we are exposed to the stimuli which would change the way we feel about things, or cause us to feel emotion outside of our daily life, the more our brains produce and withhold certain hormones.
So how does the media control the way we feel?
Well, the entertainment industry is based on just that, enthralling and allowing for emotions outside of our daily life to affect us. They choose the emotion, the picture and the information that we watch (that on a natural day, in our natural environment would not apply to us), and we simply and only watch and FEEL.
That is how important our emotions are. When we watch and feel, our minds are slowly and steadily changing.
Here are two examples:
Have you ever watched a such a touching movie and had your view of your own situation change, just because of one storyline that was not even reality?
Have you ever felt emotions in a movie about a circumstance that never actually happened to you?
This affect is even greater in magnitude with music. The changes in our emotional status can waver from happy to sad in 3 minutes due to the power of music having such a huge impact on our minds and emotions.
With our emotions changing so rapidly, infact so much it is unnatural, we put ourselves in a constant confused state. Our minds are producing haphazard hormones, and eventually we feel out of touch with our own reality, we are never settled.
These changing hormones results in such a common anxiety, and in this panic we are completely vulnerable and exposed.
It is like a constant and steady type of PTSD, we are like sponges, and the media can feed us anything they like with the increased probability of us accepting it.
And that is mind control..
In a nutshell:
Emotions are not invisible, they are actually physical hormones which affect the shape of our minds.
Haphazard emotional exposure causes unnatural and unhealthy hormone production and brain structure changes, putting us in a constant feeling of being ‘out of touch’ with reality and hence causing anxiety.
In this state of numb panic, we are like sponges. We will be more susceptible to what the media tells us about the world… because we no longer feel that we know.
How do you beat it?
Look away from the screen ♥
Do not readily accept information from the media, use your ability and your own life experiences to validate information ♥
Be selective of what you expose yourself to ♥
Remember to live your own life ♥
-copied via Islam-for-girl (tumblr)
How to be More Attractive and Likeable
1. Treat other people with kindness and respect.
2. Be generous and caring towards people that you meet.
3. Don’t be preoccupied with yourself.
4. Work on being a good listener.
5. Take care of yourself, and develop confidence.
6. Develop different interests, and be willing to learn.
7. Encourage other people – don’t be critical and mean.
8. Demonstrate gratitude, and be positive.
When you love someone you love them for their heart and soul, you accept them for everything that they are, and you believe in their goodness.
You see them in a way no one else does because every part of you has become so embedded with them it’s as if you never truly knew yourself without them.
You welcome their vulnerability, their insecurities, and their sorrows into your heart and show them how they never have to worry about concealing them from you because those are the things you love the most.
You help them carry the weight of their struggles. You hold their hand through the darkness of their trials. You become their moon and stars to guide them out of every difficulty.
You pull the ocean to their desert. You pour sunshine over the gardens in their heart. And when they throw their storms to you, you forgive forgive forgive to remind them that’s not all they are.
When you love someone they become your prayers and the answers to them too.
All men want to marry to marry a woman that walks the path of Sayyidah Khadijah, but as a man you need to fulfil your rights in order to see that the marriage is successful.
- You need to spend quality time at home.
- You need to: be her best friend, love her, cherish her, honour her, magnify her, remember her, think about her, miss her, yearn for her, respect her, praise her, pray with her, joke with her, raise her and overlook mistakes.
- You need to show her she is the most important person in the world; more than all the chilling with mates and the late night missions.
- You must bow, prostrate and worship with her, and you must supplicate together.
All women want to marry a man that walks the path of Sayyiduna Muhammad ﷺ, but as a woman you must exert efforts in order for your marriage to blossom.
- You need to: increase his confidence, lift his burdens, keep his secrets, trust him, console in him and show him you care.
- You need to smile, joke and laugh. Be his source of peace, happiness and tranquillity. Emotionally strengthen him and spiritually assist him.
- You need to show him that you love him and that nothing is more important to you in this world than him; more than wealth and the material of this universe.
- You need to help him reach his potential in being a servant of Allah.
This is what the Messenger of Allah taught us about marriage. ﷺ
— Shaykh Mohammad Aslam
WHAT AN EYE OPENING STORY
There’s a bakery shop near to our house. Often, on my way back home in the evening, I buy some stuff for the morning breakfast.
Today, as I was about to leave the bakery, I met our neighbour Mr. Irfan who himself was leaving the same shop. After the exchange of some traditional greetings, the conversation went like following.
I asked: “What have you bought?”
Irfan replied: “Nothing much Hanif, just some chicken patties and some sweetmeats for my wife and children”.
Jokingly, I enquired, “Why so? Hasn’t your wife cooked today?”
Irfan said: “No, Hanif, it’s not like that. Actually today in office we were a little hungry so my colleagues ordered some patties and sweetmeats. Since, I had this at the office I thought to buy some for my family too. It’s not fair that I eat whatever I like at the office while my kids and wife remain bound to eat whatever is cooked at home.”
Confounded with great surprise, I stared at him because I never thought this way before.
I said: “What’s the big deal, Irfan? If you eat food of your own choice at the office, your wife and children would also be having whatever they like to eat at home.”
Irfan replied: “Not at all, Hanif! My wife saves for me from everything there is. Even if someone from neighborhood sends something, my wife first saves some for me and then distributes it among my kids. It would be very selfish if I just enjoy good things with my friends and not with my family.”
Amazed upon hearing this I said: “Enjoying? This bakery stuff is what you think is enjoyment?”
He said: “Whatever Hanif! I dread the time when on the Day of Resurrection I’ll be questioned about this. That I took someone’s daughter into marriage and had fun with my friends while she ate whatever little was available.”
Completely stunned, I couldn’t move my eyes off him while he continued.
Irfan: “Look, when we get married to someone’s sister or daughter, they are human beings as well. Just like us. They too have hunger needs. They have their desires as well.
They too wish to taste lots of delicious foods or foods of their choice, to try different kinds of lovely outfits. They also want to move and travel around. Keeping them caged like a bird, providing them meals twice a day and having a sense of smugness for doing all this is selfishness.
And the way we treat the daughters of others is the way our own daughters and sisters will be treated because what goes around comes around.”
His last words shook me to a great degree. I never thought like this before. Concluding the conversation with Irfan I said, “Great! You have made me think from a different perspective.”
I turned back to the shop.
Irfan: “Where are you going?”
I replied, “To buy some ice-cream…actually I had some ice-cream at the office today.”
Irfan and Hanif took their respective paths. Irfan was glad to have a positive impact on Hanif. On the other hand, Hanif, now, knew how to keep his wife and kids happy and acknowledge all the efforts his wife does for his happiness.
What an eye opening story….
Wives are what makes life beautiful!
Adapted from Pious Muslim Husband & Wife