Category Archives: The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam)

The Prophets Treatment and Care of His Wife

Is ʿĀʾishah (رضي الله عنها) Invited too? The Prophets Treatment and Care of His Wife – By Imām an-Nawawī (رحمه الله)

Anas (رضي الله عنه) reported that the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ had a Persian neighbour who could prepare a good soup. One day he cooked soup for the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ and came to him to invite him. The Messenger of Allāh asked: ‘And is ʿĀʾishah invited too?’ He replied; ‘No’. So the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said: ‘No, (in declining the invitation)’. The neighbour returned once more and invited him again, and the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ asked; ‘Is ʿĀʾishah invited too?’ He replied; ‘No’, and so the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said; ‘No (in declining the invitation)’. He returned a third time to invite him and Allāh’s Messenger ﷺ again asked: ‘And is ʿĀʾishah invited too?’ the neighbour replied; ‘Yes’, so the Prophet and ʿĀʾishah made their way until they reached his house.

Imam an-Nawāwī (رحمه الله):

“As for the second narration about the story of the Persian, then that is another issue all together. It is conceived to mean that there was an excuse that prevented the Prophet ﷺ from the obligation of accepting the invitation. The Prophet had the permissible options which were to either accept or reject the invitation, and since ʿĀʾishah was in a state of hunger or some situation similar, he chose to reject it unless she was invited.

The Prophet ﷺ hated to be singled out for food without her, and this (insisting on ʿĀʾishah’s attendance) is the from the beautiful dealings, rights of companionship and recommended social conduct [that is enjoined by Islam]. So when she was permitted to attend, the Prophet ﷺ chose the second permissible option for the sake of a greater benefit. And that was to achieve what he desired of honouring his wife, the fulfilment of good conduct towards her and his compassion in what occurred.”

Reference: Sharḥ Ṣaḥiḥ Muslim : lil-Imām an-Nawawī, (pp.7.87)

Posted on 09 Nov, 2017. Translated by Ṣalaḥ al-Irānī

[Source: Masjid Daar us Sunnah, Shepherd’s Bush, UK]


Even his enemies had to admit to this quality.



His (Prophet’s) speech was sweet, comprehensive, and he had the most beautiful way with words.

His words captured the hearts and souls. Even his enemies had to admit to this quality.


Ibn’ul Qayyim, Zaad’ul Ma’ad (v. 1, p. 312)

Summarized the extent of the Prophet’s Noble Manners


Ibn Al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy upon him) summarized the extent of the Prophet’s noble manners by saying:

“The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) used togreet the children when he passed by them.

Sometimes, a little girl would take him by the hand and he would allow her to lead him wherever she wanted.

  • He (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) used to lick his fingers after eating.
  • He (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) would be in the service of his family when at home.

Never would he become angry because of something personal.

  • He (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) used to repair his own sandals and mend his own torn clothes.
  • He would milk his goat himself for his own family.
  • He would feed his own camel.

He used to :

  • Eat with his servants,
  • Sit in the company of the poor people, and
  • Personally take care of the needs of widows and orphans.

He would be the one to initiate the greeting when meeting people. He would respond to the humblest of invitations.

He (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) :

  • Lived a very modest lifestyle,
  • A man of soft manners,
  • Naturally kind,
  • Easy to get along with,
  • Having a pleasant smile on his face,
  • Gracefully humble,
  • Extremely generous but not wasteful.

Soft-hearted and :

  • Gentle in his dealings with each and every Muslim,
  • Lowering the wings of humility to the believers,
  • Bearing their companionship in such a gentle way.”

[Madaarij As-Saalikeen, 3/111-112]